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I Made an Exit Survey for People Who Ghosted Me. Here’s Why.

A few weeks ago, a friend of mine was talking about how she thought she was being ghosted. She lamented that she didn’t understand. She thought things were going well. They enjoyed time together, but nothing! No communication what so ever. I casually said, as a joke, “You should send her an exit survey. Figure out what went wrong, what you could do better.” We all laughed… but also, that idea was brilliant. And thus, my friends and I created the following exit survey for folks who have ghosted us: Loading... Is this funny? Certainly. Here, share it with your friends. Use it yourself. Hell, adapt it and make it your own! But is it rooted in something more serious?…

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The Spiritual Metaphysics of Art and Rest

For artists and creators, making art and creating is not always the easiest thing. Whether it's doubt, the size and scope of a project, or just the creative process being difficult, creativity sometimes kicks our asses to the curb. Today, SueAnne Shiah, a multidisciplinary artist and theologian of color living in Nashville, TN, shares about the process of creating her feature length documentary about a Taiwanese pilgrimage, "Huandao," and about the spiritual metaphysics of Sabbath, rest and art. It's a very, very thick conversation, and I know you're going to love it. Listen to "Episode 24: The Spiritual Metaphysics of Art and Rest, with SueAnn Shiah" on Spreaker. ... Here's some of my favorite quotes from this: You can connect with…

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Hi, I’m depressed and this is how I feel today

I wrote this with no intention of posting it, but honestly, I haven't posted anything in a while, so why the hell not. Something you should know about me is that I struggle with depression and anxiety, and in some seasons it is worse than others. Today, it is pretty bad. Actually, this past month it's been pretty bad. And if you struggle with mental illness, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. So this post is... I dunno. It's like a "me too" blog and also a "I just need to process this some how so I'm going to word vomit and I don't give a shit if anyone reads it" blog. Whoop, here it is. ... Brandi Carlisle…

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Let’s Talk About SEX(ual Ethics) w/ Rev. Jonathan Vanderbeck

Sexual ethics (one's personal practice around about the proper expression of sexual intimacy) is a topic of conversation that happens rarely in church because it's assumed everyone is waiting till marriage. But, if we're being honest, this is hardly the case. And have we stopped to ask why we believe this way? Or have we even explored what scripture says about this? Today, Rev. Jonathan Vanderbeck and I talk sexual ethics, purity culture, our bodies, and more. Be sure to connect with the reverend on twitter: @revJonathan16. And listen, subscribe, and leave a good rating for us in iTunes!  Listen to "Episode 23: Let's Talk About Sex(ual Ethics), feat. Rev. Jonathan Vanderbeck" on Spreaker. Do be a favor? Share this…

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First Kisses and the Christian Closet

First kisses can be magical! But so many of us are taught that we cannot trust our experience, our feelings, or our bodies. Today, Candice Czubernat, a gay Christian therapist, shares her story of how she met her wife, about learning to trust herself, and how painful experiences can be beautifully redeemed. Click here to listen in iTunes or stream it below! Be sure to subscribe and leave a 5-Star review. It seriously helps with visibility. Thanks! Listen to "Episode 22: First Kisses and The Christian Closet, feat. Candice Czubernat" on Spreaker. ... You can connect with Candice on Twitter, @theChristianCL, on Facebook.com/theChristianCloset, and find out more about her services and therapy practice at TheChristianCloset.com. Music for today's podcast was…

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Why Dating is So Hard for LGBTQ Christians

"Ugh.... dating is hard." I feel like that's something my queer Christian friends and I use all the damn time. This isn't meant to be a blog post complaining about being single the day after Valentine's Day. It's just a general observation of our situation. And I'm here to tell you, it is so real y'all. Especially if you grew up in a context or culture that wasn't okay with the gays, let alone the rest of the spectrum. Why is so hard? I've got a few ideas on why dating is so hard for LGBTQ Christians We're going through second adolescence. What's second adolescence? It's the period after finally coming out and becoming okay with one's self, one's sexuality…

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I’d Rather Shame Than Love My Enemy

These days it's like I want to fight every single human online, and with good reason, mind you. There is this very primal, very tribal heart in me that wants to spear the enemy, to drag them for their unjust and bigoted views, to shame them for their ambivilance when it comes to injustice.  If you aren’t following me on twitter, you should do that. That’s where I write a lot of my thoughts, and sometimes end up writing threads that, honestly, might be some of my best writing. One of these threads a few weeks ago sparked a question from a friend where she asked me this question, “Do you believe shame moves a conversation forward?” I had said…