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I’m a Man with Body Image Issues

I’m a Man with Body Image Issues

Trigger warning: I’m talking about body image, describing experience with bullying (with all the language that was used), and depression. But! I’m also talking about hope. … When I was fourteen years old, I went to a water park with my brothers. It wasn’t meant to be anything serious. Just a day of fun with […]

Pentecost, Dropping Cynicism, & Learning to Love
May 15, 2016
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Pentecost, Dropping Cynicism, & Learning to Love

A few nights ago, I went to a worship night at my church in preparation for Pentecost. Pentecost is 50 days after Easter when Christians celebrate the outpouring of the Holy Spirit on the early Church. Much like the spontaneous outpouring of the Spirit, this event was a last minute, spontaneous kind of event. The […]

When Your Faith Crashes and Burns
May 5, 2016
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When Your Faith Crashes and Burns

This part 2 in a series I’m calling Accidentally Rediscovering Authentic Faith. I’m drawing on the idea that faith goes from a long season of being rigidly constructed, to entering into a period of deconstructing things, and then a third phase of reconstructing faith that is bigger, wider, and more open to what God is doing.   In […]

An Open Letter to Perry Noble: HB2 actually IS a Hate Bill

An Open Letter to Perry Noble: HB2 actually IS a Hate Bill

New Spring Megachurch pastor, Perry Noble, decided to share his feelings on the bill passed in NC, HB2, which bans transgender people from using the bathroom of the gender they identify with. He wrote about it on a Facebook post which was then shared by Fox Carolina News, and of course his thoughts are, like many conservative […]

Why You Should Embrace Your Hot Mess Life
April 28, 2016
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Why You Should Embrace Your Hot Mess Life

Do you feel like an adult yet? If so, can you tell me the secret? What is the magical recipe that takes me from a hot mess life to fully actualized functioning adult with a stable income and romantic relationship? Because, really, I’d like to not be completely lame when my kids are in high […]

Dear Christians: Stop saying “Not All Christians”
April 26, 2016
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Dear Christians: Stop saying “Not All Christians”

Have you ever told a very heart wrenching story about someone who hurt you and then someone says something insensitive without meaning to that kind of defends the person who hurt you? “Oh, I’m sure they didn’t mean it,” or “Well, not all people are like that.” I’m sure you know what I’m talking about […]

Losing My Religion
April 20, 2016
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Losing My Religion

I began losing my religion in January of 2014. I was a missionary at the time, the archetype of what “good Christian” was supposed to be. But my faith was stacked up like a house of cards, and removing even one of them could bring the whole thing down. However, experience not just removed a […]

When You’re At The End of Yourself
April 15, 2016
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When You’re At The End of Yourself

I get really freaking tired of trying sometimes. I’m tired of being the good Christian, the one to turn the other cheek. I get tired of being the better man, the bigger person, the one to keep my mouth shut when I really just want to rip someone a new one. I sometimes just want to […]

How “Religious Liberty” is Actually Flat-out Discrimination

How “Religious Liberty” is Actually Flat-out Discrimination

In the same year that the Supreme Court has decreed that same sex-marriage is now legal and the law of the land, there has been a dramatic upturn in the amount of state legislatures who have introduced bills and ordinances as a kind of workaround. If they can’t keep the gays from getting married, they’ll […]

I’m in an Abusive Relationship with My Church
April 5, 2016
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I’m in an Abusive Relationship with My Church

“You do not have to agree with me to be in fellowship with me.” That’s kind of a mantra I’ve adopted as I’ve taken steps in LGBTQ+ advocacy in the church. Granted, I’m more than willing to fight bad teaching (as evidenced by my recent exchanges with a certain hipster pastor from Texas on Twitter), […]

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