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I Never Felt Welcome in Church Until This

I Never Felt Welcome in Church Until This

“You’re looking for beer and hymns?” “Does it look that obvious?” I asked the waitress. “Yep. You’ve got the look they all have when they’re coming for the first time.” She must’ve meant sheepish, tired, and emotionally compromised, because that is exactly how I looked and felt. I hadn’t slept much since the week before […]

Why Pride is More Important than Ever

Why Pride is More Important than Ever

This past Sunday was one of the most bittersweet days of my life. I celebrated one year of feeling the freedom in Christ to embrace my identity as a gay man. It was also the day we learned about those who we lost in Orlando. I’m sharing my thoughts with you below in this video. […]

How to Support Your LGBTQ Friends after the Orlando Shooting

How to Support Your LGBTQ Friends after the Orlando Shooting

Yesterday, I watched the sunset from the 24th floor of my hotel. I was exhausted after working Capital Pride in DC and I hadn’t had a moment to actually think about what happened in Orlando. The entire day, people mentioned it here and there, and I even solicited donations from festival goers. I feel like […]

Mourning the Orlando Massacre: do something

Mourning the Orlando Massacre: do something

There’s a lot of feelings moving around in my head and heart right now, and so, of course, I’m going to process them with you. My boss looked at me this morning and told me what happened. “Twenty are dead. More are injured. It was at a gay club…” The words hit me in the […]

You Should Stay Angry About the Stanford Rape Case
June 11, 2016
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You Should Stay Angry About the Stanford Rape Case

Today, my friend Alexis Nowling, a dear friend from my missionary days, is my guest on the blog. She is someone who has a keen insight into what it is to fully embrace life. She’s walked through hell and back, and lived to tell about it. She’s a keeper of good stories and I call her […]

How Straight Marriage Became an Idol for this Gay Christian
June 2, 2016
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How Straight Marriage Became an Idol for this Gay Christian

This past Tuesday the lead singer of the band Everyday Sunday, Trey Pearson, came out as gay in a very public way. Being in the Christian music scene, this will more than likely be the death sentence for his music career but, according to his statement, he feels more free than he ever has before […]

How to Love the Sinner & Hate the Sin: 5 Easy Steps

How to Love the Sinner & Hate the Sin: 5 Easy Steps

I came across Emily Joy and her poetry last year right before the release of her latest collection, All Prodigal Daughters and Sons. Well, she’s done it again, and it hits very close to home. In her newest work, Emily gives us a satirical, yet hauntingly real, look at loving the sinner and hating the sin, a […]

I’m a Man with Body Image Issues

I’m a Man with Body Image Issues

Trigger warning: I’m talking about body image, describing experience with bullying (with all the language that was used), and depression. But! I’m also talking about hope. … When I was fourteen years old, I went to a water park with my brothers. It wasn’t meant to be anything serious. Just a day of fun with […]

Pentecost, Dropping Cynicism, & Learning to Love
May 15, 2016
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Pentecost, Dropping Cynicism, & Learning to Love

A few nights ago, I went to a worship night at my church in preparation for Pentecost. Pentecost is 50 days after Easter when Christians celebrate the outpouring of the Holy Spirit on the early Church. Much like the spontaneous outpouring of the Spirit, this event was a last minute, spontaneous kind of event. The […]

When Your Faith Crashes and Burns
May 5, 2016
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When Your Faith Crashes and Burns

This part 2 in a series I’m calling Accidentally Rediscovering Authentic Faith. I’m drawing on the idea that faith goes from a long season of being rigidly constructed, to entering into a period of deconstructing things, and then a third phase of reconstructing faith that is bigger, wider, and more open to what God is doing.   In […]

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